YOU SAY YOU HAVE HATERS, YOU ACCUSE OTHERS OF HATING ON YOU, BUT ARE YOU HATER? ARE WONDERING IF SOMEONE IS HATING ON YOU? your answers are here:
There are three types of these haters, namely; (i) the passive hater (ii) the avowed hater and (iii) the merger or conglomerate hater.
The Passive Hater is one who will never come out openly to express their dislike against you. But hey, some way somehow hatred has way of bringing their ass out to the open. One may say, the passive hater is of no use to me, he is cowering and hiding in the hole like a rabbit, and so can’t do shit while he swallows his disaffection. This is entirely not true. The passive hater is the most dangerous in the haters echelon. There is nothing as portentous as not knowing you have an enemy within. These types of haters are difficult to spot, but alas! Some of us are gifted in spotted them, and we have tools in drawing them out of their hole.
The passive hater can be friends, relatives or anyone who has a personal relationship or acquaintance with you. Strangers scarcely make passive haters. Many often a time they bury their disaffection against their victim with a smile, hug and complimentary. They maybe the first to compliment you and speak very highly of your awe; whether beauty, intelligence, talent, riches, project, relationship, ambition, career, etc.
If you were twerking in the middle of a highway, these kind of haters, knowing truly the dangers of you getting knocked down by a speeding vehicle will increase the frequency of their appraisals and flattery and even demand you to keep twerking in the middle of the road that instead of a vehicle knocking you down, they’ll somersault over you. If by chance a speeding vehicle almost knocked you while twerking in the middle of the highway, and you happen to escape getting knocked-down to death by the whiskers, they’ll remark “Don’t mind the bastard driver, he was hating on your ass cos he can’t twerk better than you, doesn’t he know this is a public road?
They may not necessarily lambaste you or show any sign of criticism or disaffection towards you, but meanwhile, the demon is deep buried in their belly, awaiting unleash.
These kinds of haters are very dangerous. If you have an avowed outside enemy, they are the ones that’ll sell-out to them for a pittance and then ask them to keep the change.
Their demons and symptoms gets to be revealed sometime when they display a sudden or strange moodiness around you in the form of silence, distance or maybe a sudden enrage over a very trivial matter of a pipsqueak weight, that under no natural circumstance should warrant such aggravation or outburst of paroxysm. During such outbursts, to spot the passive hater, it is of my counsel that rather than avoid the outburst, it is necessary to press further, for the passive hater meets her moment of truth under circumstances when he/she is under intense irritability from her object of irritation. Most people unknown to them do wonder why certain friends at a time suddenly went on an unnecessary outburst at them over nothing (that is if truly you were not at fault). In a innocent and unsuspecting spirit of friendship, many people do rush to soothe the friend or avoid nasty or unwarranted drama or confrontations, by keeping calm or wondering in awe what manner of irritation befell their friend(s) in a short moment. Unknown to them, they allow a moment of revelation pass them by, and that way the passive hater survives yet another chance into longevity.
Here is an example of a little scenery of what I mean:
Your friend, or whoever has been acting somewhat strange (particularly towards you). You ignore such behavior thinking it’s just one of those days a person do not get to wake-up on the right-side of the bed. Then somehow, you ask her for biro, she responds, saying she is using it when actually she is not using it. Then you ask her whether anything is wrong, she barely waits for you to finish the inquiry to echo “I’m fine. I’m using the biro”. You look away and ignore. Then probably out of chance of mistake you stepped on her beautiful pair of shoes, and to your puzzle, she immediately erupts like an over-ripe volcano. As a good friend you’ll be shocked to see her mad at you at something that simple (which is normally not characteristic of her to act that way), you may quickly try to pacify her, while at the same time wondering what the heck is going on with her. If this opportunity passes you without getting her to reveal her stuff, maybe the next day, she’ll come apologizing over the way she acted previously or she may default to her usual state.
What you should do is this: if your friend is acting one of a kind and then suddenly erupts over the shoe, rather than pacify her, press her. Make remarks like “you’re talking to me this way cos of this stupid shoes of yours?” Or, rather than apologize you can do something more annoying like laugh, giggle or play down on her anger just to irritate her the more. When the build-up of irritation is beyond her pretense or zip-up, she’ll unleash the dragon and say what’s on her mind about you. She might say something like this: “You call my shoes stupid because you think you dress better than everyone else?” “All the time you think the world revolves around you, or you’re like you’re on top of the world” or just anything that may reveal their true irritation towards you. Rather than get angry or respond impulsively to the situation, which may lead to a physical brawl, I owe it to great prudence to withhold such and allow the masquerade dance. Once you’ve destabilized the individual, continue to pester with the vice used; be it giggle, sarcasm, laughter or some antagonizing phrase, and then pause to listen and watch him/her continue to throw-up what has been long buried inside her.
In many cases, the passive hater will regurgitate past invents and long forgotten activities. They may even refer to matters that are not even connected to the subject matter. For an example, if he or she was mad at you for stepping on their shoes, while in the process of revealing their hatred, they may talk about your family members, your car, grade, business, or anything just about unconnected with the issue at hand. Many times they’ll attack your weakest link or bring-out an err you’re guilty of and a misdemeanor you’ve committed in the past. For example if you’re a female and have done an abortion which the passive hater is aware of, in the course of her irritation and moment of truth she is likely to use it against you as a reminder that her shoes do not abortion like you or something really hurtful she knows of you like your past and present relationships, sex escapades, family discrepancy, physical challenge, business woes, your personal fear and just about anything that might be damaging to your psyche or reputation. That is how passive haters get unveiled.
REVERSAL OF PERSPECTIVE: it should be noted that not every friend that acts suddenly angry or moody is a passive hater. Some people do have mood swings and if in the moment of their moodiness you step on them they may act in a very surprising ways that is alien to their characteristic repertoire. This does not mean they are haters or hating on you nor have things button-up their sleeves against you. Also many people may tend to keep distances from a friend based on many reasons which may not include hatred or jealousy on the said friend. People change, friendships gets expired, humans naturally get bored over-time. There are certain people that are in a habit of changing friends from time to time and whenever a certain friendship ceases to be interesting or profitable to them, they may get off the boat to another, this does not mean they were concealed of hatred on the former friendship or any reason whatsoever, it is simply their nature.
This is not say that friends do not have brawls neither do friends not criticize the each other. As a matter of fact true friends would tell you the RAW truth and their honest opinion in any matter. But the passive hater is one who in a moment of anguish or petty demur goes on the fishing of things to destroy the psyche and reputation of his/her friend. No true friend does that; no true friend advertently or inadvertently seeks to derail and demean the psyche, security, confidence and reputation of a friend and this is what is revealed of the passive hater in moments of anguish and irritation.
CULLED FROM: MEMOIRS OF A “BADT” GUY by Imoh Son Of David