Many people are of the view that haters or a hater is one who is doing dismally and unsuccessfully, and because of his failure jinx, he indirectly transfers his aggression of retrogression on individuals who are living contrary to their voodoo predicament.
In order words a hater is one who looks whimsically and vexatiously upon any object be it an individual, group, idea, project that is living and exercising a reality he can only wish for. This definition and view albeit of the popular new school urban thrift of lingua is often informally used to described one who is simply jealous of another.
Contrary to what most people think of a hater as one who is unsuccessful, poor, failing, low class, down-trodden, etc and hating on the progressive, rich, successful, happy, etc, this is in fact not entirely true. A hater can be a rich person, successful person, the perceived happy person, etc who equally envies the success and happiness of another, whether or not the person is doing any lesser successful than them. In order words a status of a hater is not determined or attained by one’s economic status, but rather by one’s mental state, social security and confidence. One may not be rich and will never hate on anyone who is richer, and one may be very rich and still hate on the other man who is not as rich as him. One may ask why would anyone who is rich hate on a poor -ass man? The answer to this question is not singular and the causes of such behavioral discomfort by one who has attain such status against one who is lesser in status to himself is ambiguous and sundry.
There are certain people who, due to psychological uneasiness develop insecurity when they see others doing happily even though they are doing even better than the people in question. Whether sadistic tendency or insecurity in psychological status of such persons are the root cause, but there exist many a great number of such individuals who do not want others to grow and be happy.
They want to be the only iroko tree in the forest, the only goat that is chewing the chord and the only lion that roars. They want to be the idol while others are mere dolls. Such individuals can have up to 30 cars, but when their neighbor, brother, or relative get just one car or a mere motorbike, they start developing malaise and nightmares over the pauper’s pot. These people are equally haters. These kinds of haters, when they see the little poor dude they hate on, they are usually in the business of displaying their affluence whether pretentiously or avowedly in anticipation that the individual will be aroused to bickering, sadness, low self-esteem and most importantly to acknowledge their affluence, hence worship. When the individual happens not to be concerned or moved about their gorilla chest-beating they resort the next move “MIMICRY”. They next thing they do is to point accusing fingers at the individual for hating on them and their success.
The hater is a dissatisfied and insatiable bigot. The only time a real hater is satisfied is when the individual or group or object they abhor is completely decimated to a point of no recovery. Only when their victim is completely eliminated and living their envisage of total pipsqueak, will they be at peace. There is no outside cure for haters; only haters can cure themselves. And the second best and judicious way of dealing with your haters is to totally avoid them and part ways with them and keeping great distance from them. But if he or she is a true hater don’t be surprised if they still snoop around on you trying to run an intel on your well-being. The first and effective way of dealing with a hater is ELIMINATION; however the understanding of the later method might be interpreted, that is entirely to your comprehension not mine.
Hating or haters are not merely created because of economical factor but rather is more or less of a psychological factors. It might be seen that a rich man who has many mistresses and girlfriends under his command will hate on another man who is not half his worth, solely on the grounds that the man is married to a woman he wishes to have his bed.
Haters are everywhere; they are not found wanting in any social organization and activities, be at work, family, government, interest groups, social functions, and just about anywhere and everywhere. In the office he could be a senior colleague who is insecure and hating on his junior worker merely on the grounds that the individual is competent, skilful, out-spoken and thus a threat to his office and positions. Also, a superior at work or in any organization might be hated by his team and co workers due to many reasons; it could be of pride, success, age (many times people are not at ease when someone younger them occupies a position of authority and command over them), background, feats, etc. People who tend to be very skilful and talented when so much admiration and panegyrics assigned to their work, talent, office et are more likely to attract haters in the same line, place and social enclave they function. In personal relationships and smaller social circles like friends and acquaintances it is very much abound, because different people with different mentality, psychology, understanding, temperaments are fused together. These individuals are often different internally even though they may share the same views, opinions, dreams and ambitions. Their internal differences is due to their sundry backgrounds, upbringing and orientations which turns out to determine their fears, insecurity, fantasies, hopes, envisage of things.
On the other hand, there are certain people that will never like you no matter what you may do; whether you’ve hurt them or not, whether you’re anymore skilful and successful than them. These kinds of haters I call them HATERS PENUMBRA.
PART 2: TYPES OF HATERS
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CULLED FROM: MEMOIRS OF A ‘BADT’ GUY by Imoh “Son of David”